Grey Matters Centre

LOW SELF ESTEEM

Self esteem can quietly shape how we move through the world. It influences how we see ourselves, how we relate to others, and what we believe we deserve. When that inner voice becomes harsh or critical, it can make even simple decisions feel uncertain and leaves us doubting our worth, our abilities, or our place in life.

You might appear confident to others while feeling deeply unsure inside, or find yourself constantly seeking reassurance but never quite believing it when it’s offered. Perhaps you measure your value through what you achieve, how you look, or how others perceive you – and no matter how hard you try, it never feels enough.

Low self-esteem often develops over time. It can be shaped by early experiences, trauma, criticism, or simply years of putting others needs before your own. But however it began, it is not who you truly are – it’s a set of learned beliefs than can be unlearned, one gentle step at a time.

Many people look for help after searching for low self-esteem counselling near me, emotional support for confidence issues in Scunthorpe, or therapy for self-worth struggles in North Lincolnshire-and reaching out is a strong first step.

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Understanding What’s Happening

When you live with low self-esteem, your inner critic often becomes louder than your inner voice. It might tell you that you’re not good enough, that you’ll fail, or that others are somehow more deserving. Over time, these thoughts can become automatic – forming patterns of self-doubt, perfectionism, or avoidance.

You may notice:

  • Constant self-criticism or comparing yourself to others
  • Difficulty accepting praise or believing positive feedback
  • Fear of failure of rejection
  • Overthinking or people-pleasing
  • Feeling undeserving of happiness or love

These patterns often begin as ways of protecting yourself- trying to avoid disappointment, rejection, or hurt. But they can end up keeping you trapped in the very pain you were trying to escape.

Working Together to Heal

Therapy offers a space to slow down those inner voices and begin to understand where they came from. Together, we’ll explore the experiences that shaped your self-view and work to gently challenge the beliefs that hold you back.

Our focus will be on building self awareness, self-compassion, and confidence from the inside out – learning to speak to yourself with the same kind of kindness you offer to others. Over time, this process helps you reconnect with your strengths, your values, and your sense of worth that has always been there beneath the noise of self-judgement.

There is Hope

You are not defined by the way you’ve been taught to see yourself. Healing from low-self esteem means beginning to trust your own voice again – to recognise that you are worthy of love, respect, and acceptance just as you are.

With support, patience, and care, it’s possible to rebuild your sense of self and to move through the world with more ease, confidence, and peace.

You don’t have to do this alone. Together, we can work towards helping you feel at home in who you are – one small, supported step at a time.

Some symptoms may include

  • No confidence
  • Trying to be perfect
  • Trying to please others
  • Negative thinking
  • Unsocial
  • Won’t try new things
  • Avoid challenges
  • Mental health issues
  • Depression
  • Anxiety
  • Panic attacks
  • Self medicating
  • Inability to say “no”
  • Resentful
  • Anger
  • Stressed

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Criteria for this service

  • If you think there is a problem with your self esteem and you would like to do the work to make the changes you want.
  • If you have a diagnosis
  • You do not need a referral from your G.P.
  • You are most welcome to go onto our therapist’s pages and choose the person you wish to work with. Their appointments are displayed on their page and you are able to go ahead and book one.
 
 

Our privilege
It is our mission and our privilege to support you on your journey to recovery and to reach your goals. We are confident that together we can make a difference to your world and help you to live your life the way you want to live it. Imagine what your life would be like after therapy and the difference it would make to you. 

We help hundreds of people every year to be the best they can be. Please don’t suffer unnecessarily any longer, get in touch with us today and take the first step to make great things happen!

Low self esteem is treatable and recovery is possible.

 

Telephone 07907613600
Email info@greymatterscentre.co.uk

We offer supportive therapy for low self-esteem, confidence difficulties and self-worth concerns to individuals across Scunthorpe, Ashby, Bottesford, Brigg, Crowle, Messingham, Winterton, Barton-upon-Humber and throughout the wider North Lincolnshire area.

 

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You don’t need to have everything figured out before starting therapy.

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